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Dear Alma,

I am 28, female and I live with my 33-year-old boyfriend. I love him tremendously, and in many ways we are very compatible. He is affectionate, has always been faithful to me and has never put me down in any way. However, we come from very different places. I grew up in a suburban town. My parents read to me as a kid, encouraged all my interests and expected me to further my education. My boyfriend was raised in a poor area by a teen, single mother and grandmother who gave him little encouragement and never expected him to go to college. He lacks motivation and works a blue-collar job that takes little brain power. He admires driven people but lacks ambition.

Despite all this, he is a kind, open-minded and intelligent individual who reads, follows the news, and has many interests. But for all his good qualities, I am surrounded by accomplished, goal-oriented people, and I am embarrassed telling many of them what he does for a living. Some friends sympathize with me; others say I am being bougie. Lately, I’ve been imagining my life without him. Should I move on and find a more “accomplished” man, or do I suck it up and try to better appreciate the one I have?–Signed, Wrong Side

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