Two years ago, our son graduated from high school and we purchased for him a new car. We also promised our daughter when she graduates from high school, she will also receive a new car. My son received a football scholarship and lives on campus out of the city. Our daughter does not plan to attend college. Instead of furthering her education at this time, she plans to take a job at a fast food place. She plans to stay at home for at least the next 8 to 10 years.
This is the problem: Six months ago my husband lost his job. The company moved to another city. Some employees went to the new location, but my husband was not chosen to go.
Gwendolyn, we are barely making mortgage payments and our SUV is broken. My husband cannot understand why I am insisting that we go ahead and purchase a new car for my daughter. She graduates in two months. I don’t want my children to ever have to experience disappointment.—Liz
How can you think of purchasing a new car for your daughter—at the same time barely making mortgage payments? Gee, some men know they chose the wrong woman.
Let me tell you this: Not wanting your children to experience disappointment is not the real world. Mothers, as yourself, leave this world with children unable to manage a dime. It is imprudent for you to think you can shield your children from the troubles of this world. It makes no sense Liz (Read “Overcoming Life’s Disappointments” by Harold S. Kushner, 2007). If you insist on buying the new car, then go ahead and do so. But keep in mind—the three of you may have to—sleep in it.
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