I have been married for 14 years. We have two children, age 8 and 6. I have always had my older child in a school in rich suburbia. My wife does not seem to have good reasoning. If I had known that, I never would have married her.
This is the problem: She thinks that schools in wealthy neighborhoods are better schools. I have been attending the town hall meetings held by the school board. Last year I lost my job and unless I soon find employment, we are going to foreclose on our home. My wife recently assured me that if I get to where I cannot afford our children to go to school with the rich, she is going to leave.
Gwendolyn, what is your advice?—Jimmy
Sorry to hear that your wife is not a reasoning woman. So much makes up a marriage other than I love you—and you love me.
I think you should continue to see what the school board is going to do about improving the neighborhood school. Your wife could be using your downfall as an excuse to leave. Let me tell you this and please relay it to your wife: Rich people usually have their children in private schools where the tuition is too high for the average worker. Many parents now feel that the public schools in affluent neighborhoods are not doing a good job—in educating the little boys and girls being transported in via bus. Fight for the improvement of your neighborhood school. Parents make the mistake of seeing their children go all in the same door, not realizing that too often the transported children are put into the ‘slow class’ with results being on the day of graduation—they can’t read, can’t write.
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