A very distressing statistic is that the overwhelming majority of Blacks that come into contact with the penal system have almost no positive males in their lives. We all understand that a father is the male figure in the conception of a child, but is that the same as daddy?
The same study also stated that the same statistic is relevant among White persons that violate the law.
It is an established fact that even in good solid families our children may stumble and fall. However, I get upset when OUR troubled youths are portrayed as having no live-in or strongly committed daddies.
I am frequently asked when I write about positive people why I fail to mention an individual that they believe should be mentioned? The answer simply is there is not enough space to mention the untold numbers of deserving persons, and that is why I leave a blank space for you to include their names_______________.
This week’s column will include the names of several who constantly discuss their daddies and the role they played in shaping their lives. For example Rick Adams, an educator at Community College of Allegheny County; Chris Moore, outstanding television and radio personality and Rod Doss, editor of the New Pittsburgh Courier, all have related to me how their daddies instilled in them an overwhelming sense of responsibility not just for self but others. A few others put their relationship with their daddy in writing.
“Hop” Kendrick: My daddy instilled in me that I was somebody, no better but just as good. “Can’t” was never acceptable in our life or vocabulary. Richness is a state of mind, not a state of being, and all things being equal, there is nothing you can’t accomplish. [Daddy had a fourth grade education.]
Pittsburgh Police Chief, Nathan Harper: Daddy was a man with tremendous strength that enabled him to serve God, hold his family together and would never allow grudges, distrust, or resentment to divide the family unit. Daddy was kind and had a spirit filled heart that gave him the strength to be a Christian husband, father and friend to every person he came in contact with.
Allegheny County Common Pleas Judge David Wecht: Daddy is father, role model, positive example, leader, confidant and my best friend, all of that and more. My father and I talk everyday, discussing family, friends, politics, my personal statewide campaign and overall life. If I get kind of carried away with myself he brings me back down to earth. He never sugarcoats any questions, and if he disagrees he never hesitates to tell me. I question if I could ever be the kind of daddy that he has been to myself and my three siblings, but I will do my utmost. I have resolved that I, David Wecht, will do everything humanly possible to be the kind of father to my three children that my daddy has been for his.
Nothing could be more important.
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(Louis “Hop” Kendrick is a weekly contributor to the Forum Page.)