I am 45 years old and I waited until I found the perfect wife for me. Most of my friends got married in their early 30s or late 20s, but “oh no” not me. Three months before our wedding, I rented an apartment in the plush section of town. Before the wedding I bought her a brand new car, furniture throughout the apartment, and added to her wardrobe leather and mink coats.
This is the problem: Immediately my wife changed. She quickly became the woman I didn’t know. She refused to be intimate and did not make an effort to cook or do house chores. Well, you know the story. We soon separated and I was left with a wall of debt. Our separation turned into divorce. It has only been finalized six months and I just got news she has married again. I was husband No. 4 and now she is with husband No. 5.
Gwendolyn, where did I go wrong?—Jess
It seems you did nothing wrong. This truly indicates that just because you wait does not mean you will find your Miss Right. Women also make that terrible decision to be out of their 20s and 30s before they repeat marriage vows. Some couples marry during their late teens, and live happily ever after.
Let me tell you this: True love only comes once and does not go away. However, because life does move on, some men and women are blessed that love came their way—twice. (Read: “The Good Divorce” by Constance R. Ahrons—Publisher: Harper Paperbacks)
Jess, do not become depressed over the wall of debt. You did that to yourself and cannot blame her. I want you to find happiness but don’t try to find it in another—just enjoy your life. Be glad you are one of the ex-husbands. Think about it. Your ex-wife has a problem. I mean—a mental problem.
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