I met my fiancé when my son was only 10 years old. After we dated for a year, he moved in and brought with him his son. I didn’t like the idea at first, but when in love, you follow your heart and not your mind.
His son was older than my son and had a larger body build. He immediately wanted to fight my child. When I brought this to the attention of my fiancé, he said, “They’re just boys.” Recently I asked my fiancé to move and he refused.
Gwendolyn, how can I get him and his son out of my house?—Rita
My mother once told me, “You can get a husband out of your house easier than a boyfriend.” You have made the mistake thousands of women have made. You took in a man and his child. And you were correct — your heart made you do it.
Let me tell you this: Do not leave your son alone with this bully in your house. Take him with you or leave him with a relative or a responsible friend. I make this decision based on the statement of your fiancé of, “They’re just boys.” But think about it. Boys have killed boys. They don’t have to be the status of a man. Children commit crimes as well. So don’t take this matter too lightly. If your fiancé does not leave, you may have to seek other housing. This may cause a financial hardship for you to do, but nothing is too expensive when it comes to providing—the safety of a child.
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