(NNPA)—The recent release of the November unemployment figures in headline news confirms financial hardship threatens our economic well-being. The gloomy news can tempt one to embrace or personalize failure.
It is important to pay attention to your true destiny, because you may believe that you are failing for other reasons, when the failure is simply destiny telling you that you are on the wrong path! Destiny is not something you create; it is something that you discover. Once you discover your purpose, your destiny, you have to align yourself with it, or you could end up on a path of self-destruction.
There are few things worse than the feeling of failure. Failure directly attacks our ego, our sense of who we are in relation to the world. We feel impotent, inadequate, depressed, destroyed, and isolated. The structures, pillars, the patterns of our life become shaken.
Failure can be experienced in many ways. A business can fail, you can lose your job, fail at school, under perform at work, get passed over for promotion, fail in love.
Most people don’t want to talk about it. Failure is the “f”word: you don’t discuss it, you don’t go anywhere near a person infected by it (it may be contagious). You don’t even write about it: There are hundreds of books/ articles on success; Hardly any on failure.
Any risk implies the possibility of failure. When we dare new things—changing a job, starting or expanding a business, beginning a relationship—we risk failure. Every time we reach out, we’re off balance and poised to fall. But to grow, we have to keep reaching out.
Handling failure is difficult because there is often no guidance on how to cope. When someone dies, people rally around you. When your business dies or the loss of your home to foreclosure, you feel all alone.
There are two kinds of failure—the sudden death or the outright failure, and the living death or the hidden failure. In the first kind, failure is obvious and visible—there’s no hiding the fact that you’ve gone bankrupt, been fired or passed over for promotion, or failed in a relationship. The second kind is less obvious: It’s when you’re not performing at your job “temporarily” or a relationship is on the rocks and you’re hoping it will work out.
Don’t become preoccupied with fear of failure and disapproval, which can deplete your energy levels. Maintain normal anxiety and fear of failure and disapproval within bounds to utilize them to create energy and momentum.
Outright failure brings with it the opportunity for a fresh, clean start. Hidden failure, on the other hand, drags you down and makes a comeback more difficult.
Most entrepreneurs or strivers are born optimists, refusing to think about the possibility of failure. They believe “success is just around the corner” or that “the tide will turn.”
I thought winning was about persisting “Every gambler knows the secret to winning is knowing what to throw away and knowing what to keep…You gotta know when to hold, know when to fold ‘em.”
Reckless persistence enables ordinary people with only a dream and a handful of dollars to overcome impossible odds.
However, it is reckless persistence that also ruins lives, breaks up families, and spoils one’s chances of future entrepreneurial success. Running a start-up business is like learning to ride a bicycle. Every time you fall, you pick yourself up; but you have to be careful you don’t fall so hard you can’t get up again.
They have an expression in prizefighting: “everyone has a plan until they’re hit.” You’ve just been hit …the getting up is up to you…!
The world is an integration of opposites. There can be no day without night; without evil, we wouldn’t be able to differentiate the good.
“If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster and treat those two impostors just the same…Yours is the world and everything in it.”—Rudyard Kipling
(Dr. Farrah Gray is author of “The Truth Shall Make You Rich: The New Road Map to Radical Prosperity,” “Get Real, Get Rich: Conquer the 7 Lies Blocking You from Success” and the international best-seller “Reallionaire: Nine Steps to Becoming Rich from the Inside Out.” He is chairman of the Farrah Gray Foundation. Dr. Gray can be reached via e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org or his website at www.drfarrahgray.com.)