How a child is raised is so important.
Let me first say I don’t have chick nor child but I’m sure you have heard the saying “you don’t have to own a car to know how to drive one.”
A well-raised child is such a pleasure. They are mannerly and pleasant to be around and typically grow up to be good citizens. After observing many children and from my experience of being a child I have determined a few things. Discipline. Children must be reprimanded. A child who talks back and hits and bites the parent is not cute. That type of behavior must be nipped in the bud. If you don’t the child will be running your household.
Give your children chores early on. Instruct them how to put their toys away and hang up their clothes. You are not the maid. The minute they are old enough to work help them find a job. When I turned 15 I began to work. My first job was as a clerk at G.C. Murphy’s in East Hills. I learned how to count back change from the cash register, I learned the responsibility of being on time for work and how to respect people who were in authority. I got my pay check (which was in cash by the way) and had my own money to buy things I needed for school. My parents never had a problem with me as far as work. I worked after school and on weekends and loved it.
I saw a youtube video the other day that featured a small girl pole dancing and one was bumping and grinding like she was a grown woman on the old Liberty Avenue. Allegedly, the mother was the one showing the small children what to do.
What type of training is that? It’s not cute.
Please don’t dress your child like an adult. Believe it or not there are clothes out there that are made for children and look like children’s clothes. The only way the baby boys pants should be sagging is if the diaper is full.
Encourage your children to speak clearly in full sentences. I have been watching some young football players on television and I thought they were speaking another language. In many cases it sounds like they have cotton in their mouth.
Show a child how to shake someone’s hand and look the person in the eye while doing so. A friend of mine who also does not have children, is serving as a mentor. When he introduced the child to me he told him to shake my hand and look me in the eye. Don’t let your child look down at the ground when they are speaking to adults. Speak up and look up.
I don’t attend that many events where children are involved but when I do it is such a pleasure to meet young people who have good home training. It’s not out of style to say yes sir and no sir. You never know how this adult may be able to help you in the future and what a reflection this is on your parents. When I see children act out I don’t think about what their teacher didn’t do I think about the job of the parent.
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